Before I share why I am crying, here’s some full transparency…
I ended an amazing and extremely destructive relationship November of 2017.
Yep. It was both. I met a man that had me swoon. AND it was messy!
He had qualities I was hungry for AND he also came with some pretty intense baggage.
I hung in there for over a year until I realized I had to move on. The price was too high… like my sanity!
I noticed old patterns of co-dependency showing up. I started to walk on eggshells out of fear of getting him mad. I started to micromanage once again. Really? I wasn’t done? Apparently not!
I was angry that I fell into the hole I swore to never fall into again… but I did.
It was heartbreaking. I wanted it to work. I tried soooooo hard. I craved so much of what he brought to the table.
But, at the end of the day, it wasn’t a healthy partnership.
With all the personal growth work I had done through the years, I knew too much to stay and so I ran for the hills.
What I did next is what I want to share with you…
I took a year and a half off from seriously looking for my next man.
I wanted to heal the patterns that showed up once and for all before I called in my new love.
I know in every cell of my body, if we don’t take time to reflect and see the destructive patterns in our past relationships, we are doomed to recreate them in the next one.
Have you noticed you tend to date the same person?
At first, they look different but soon out the gate bam, there is your ex in living color right before you.
I was determined to not fall back into that co-dependent hole ever again. Not an option! Too fucking painful!
So I chose to take time to date myself for a while.
I needed to come home to myself, and to know who I am now. I also needed to get clear about who I wanted to call in next…
Ok, the tears…
Late May I decided it was time to tell the universe I was ready to call in MY ONE.
I had done the shadow work and I could see the “mistakes” in the last relationship. I was ready. I knew whom I wanted now.
HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!!
A few weeks and a handful of dates later he appeared. My King.
When I say tears are flowing I mean it in the best of all possible ways. This man is amazing.
He is showing up for me. He is loving, conscious, funny, so hot…ok I will stop before I make you nauseous.
I want you to know if I can do it, so can you.
🌼I cry because it was easy!
🌺I cry because he continues to blow me away with how perfect he is for me.
🌹 I cry because the universe truly conspired with me and I literally told the universe who I wanted and voila!.
I gotta say, there was a bit of fear once I went “back out there”.
Being a love mentor who helps others find their ONE I felt a bit of pressure.
How would it look if it took me a long time to find my one. My ego was freaking a bit.
There was a part of me that thought I would look like a fraud if my methods of dating and communication didn’t work for me.
But they did!!!!! My methods and tools worked and pretty darn fast.
I mean, several weeks later he’s here? Dang!
So, a few things to know…
❤️ It’s never too late to find your one…
❤️ It’s never too late to break old patterns… (I know, it’s early in the relationship, but really, that old pattern of walking on eggshells is done! In fact, he would never stand for it. He wants me to be me and accepts me for me. More importantly, I won’t stand for it. Boom baby!)
❤️It’s never too late to learn new tools to make relationships work more smoothly. (We even had our first disagreement last week and though it was uncomfortable, we got through it peacefully and lovingly. The tools work. We drew closer not further apart. )
❤️It’s never too late to heal and call in YOUR ONE!
If you’re scared your partner isn’t out there, it’s ok. Part of me was scared too.
If you don’t know how to date well, I didn’t either, until I did.
Bottom line, if you want to have a healthy, happy partnership, it’s there for you.
If you want to chat with me about what you are wanting now, your past behaviors, and your fears/concerns about love, I am happy to extend a complimentary Love Breakthrough session to you.
I only have a handful of these available each month. It would be my honor to support you in moving toward your next best ever partnership.
Let’s face it, love can be tricky.
You’ve been hurt.
All your experiences up until now have created very strong beliefs about love.
Those beliefs will influence your next steps and surely your next encounter.
If you want things to be different this time around, you must look at your shadows to see what is running your love life and heal once and for all.
If you don’t, you’ll continue to enter into the same relationship, with the same behaviors with the same challenges and the same pain. You might even stop yourself from even looking for someone because of your beliefs.
Let’s not have that happen.
Life is meant to be shared.
Love is the greatest blessing.
You deserve loads of love for yourself and with another if you choose.
If you want support, apply for one of my Love Breakthrough Sessions and I will guide you with some next steps toward your love-filled life.
At the end of the session, if I feel strongly I can help you manifest your ONE, we can discuss what working with me looks like.